Daring To Be Black, Poly, Open, and Free |
The Adventures of a married Open/Poly African American Male........ |
polyamorouscouple asked: So where are you from?
We are in the Washington DC area. How about yourself?
So I have come to the understanding that I am responsible for my feelings. No one can make me feel a certain way or an emotion. I choose to feel the emotion based on my perception of their behavior. Now I have to think, how did I develop my perception of that behavior? For me, that is the next step in my journey of self discovery.
In the open one, all the people do is argue and complain about the stupidest things. I hardly ever go on there, but when I do, I think I lose a few IQ points from reading the arguments.
The closed one, however, is safe haven. It is full of love and compassion. I’ve made friends in that group….
This has been my same experience on FB. Luckily the open group was shutdown.
We are supposed to be constantly growing and changing and so must our relationships. So what if the change brings you to a place that no longer works in the dynamics of a relationship and communication shuts down. The language, the symbols that once worked are no longer valid. It’s like going to bed in France and waking up in Japan, you are lost. You know longer have the basic grammar skills to just say hello to a person you pass in the street. Frustration will soon become the norm, basic needs will go unmet. Then inevitably of distance forms in the relationship.
I guess for most relationships this is the beginning of the end, because you have to keep growing and changing right? How long can you wait for someone to catch up?
What a gorgeous woman.
This chic right here, this my dream lady, always been!
“Admit it. You aren’t like them. You’re not even close. You may occasionally dress yourself up as one of them, watch the same mindless television shows as they do, maybe even eat the same fast food sometimes. But it seems that the more you try to fit in, the more you feel like an outsider, watching the “normal people” as they go about their automatic existences. For every time you say club passwords like “Have a nice day” and “Weather’s awful today, eh?”, you yearn inside to say forbidden things like “Tell me something that makes you cry” or “What do you think deja vu is for?”. Face it, you even want to talk to that girl in the elevator. But what if that girl in the elevator (and the balding man who walks past your cubicle at work) are thinking the same thing? Who knows what you might learn from taking a chance on conversation with a stranger? Everyone carries a piece of the puzzle. Nobody comes into your life by mere coincidence. Trust your instincts. Do the unexpected. Find the others…”
Timothy Leary: You aren’t like them.
I love this.I don’t think I’m capable of scrolling past this.
Interesting…
(Source: oldblueeyes)
Interesting……
The World’s Quietest Room
Scientists at Minneapolis’ Orfield Labs created their own soundless room, an anechoic chamber. Their studies have found that when putting subjects within the chamber, they begin to hallucinate within 30 minutes.
With an average quiet room having a sound level of 30 decibels, the anechoic chamber’s sound level is -9 decibels. The ceiling, floor, and walls of the chamber absorb sound rather than have it bounce off as normal objects do. The chamber is so quiet that the subjectscan even hear their own organs functioning.
Although extremely interesting, the experience is rather unpleasant. Not one subject has spent more than 45 minutes in the chamber alone.
Leaving a person to only their thoughts, the chamber could drive them insane.
That chamber sounds like hell. I’ll pass on that experience.
I want to try this room. I need some quiet time.